Change Happens Inexorably; How Do We Handle It?

2009 has been a time of great changes for the Moores living on the Carver Curves.  Dolly has grown into her new job as executor/executive and Trustee for her father's estate and the bequests the estate created, while learning the scope of her fibromyalgia and its effects on her body and her lifestyle.  Warren has used all of his eligibility for financial support from the two educational trusts his grandparents created, so he has had to apply for financial aid outside of the Trusts; at the same time, he's changed his academic focus from a major in Japanese language with a minor in Computer Science to a major in Business Administration with a minor in Economics.  Dale has suffered some very serious spinal cord injuries that put him in the hospital and confounded most of the physicians who have examined him, and he has officially and formally filed a claim with the Social Security Administration for Total Disability Income payments.


The Stock Market Crash and Economic Recession of 2008/2009 combined with Dale's inability to earn an income to deplete most of the Moore family's immediate savings, putting their ownership of the Lodge at the Carver Curves in real jeopardy.  Dolly observed the value of the Educational Trusts she had been entrusted with plunge during the Stock Market Crash, and the other assets of her father's estate also lost value and immediate marketability, which exacerbated the overall sense of financial and physical insecurity she had been feeling ever since the family moved to the Lodge.  Warren had to forge a new strategy and tactical plan to make completing his education and emerging from school with an ability to earn an adequate income a specific possibility, instead of a nebulous and indefinite objective.  Dale became convinced for several months that he was in imminent danger of dying; his overall levels of pain and physical dysfunction escalated steadily until in June and July of 2009, he called each of his sons and asked them to discuss any grievances they might have with him, as he believed he might die in the immediate future, and he wanted his sons to achieve as much closure and completion with him as possible.


Change usually is accompanied by upset, uncertainty and varying levels of resistance/acceptance on the part of the people whose lives are undergoing significant change; the Moores definitely experienced upset and uncertainty as they alternated between resisting and accepting the changes they were experiencing.  Over time, they became convinced that, like the victims of the Borg of the Star Trek adventure series, they were discovering that "resistance was futile", and acceptance was not an aggressive enough response to empower them to take charge of their lives and begin creating a future of their own choosing and design: they began to embrace the changes they were experiencing, and then to harness them to drive the creation of the future they jointly desired, even demanded, from their joint destinies as a family and as individuals.